Love comes in many forms: the love you have for parents, or for siblings, for friends, for family, for boyfriends/girlfriends. Maybe I should've saved a piece like this for the season of love: February aka Valentine's month. But, you know what, I think us humans should love unconditionally at all hours of the day, everyday.
There is one thing in specific that I've noticed: you never know what it feels like to love a certain someone until you do. Honestly, that sounds like some cheesy line from a rom-com, but isn't the idea of love: just a bunch of cheesy lines brought together to create happiness. Like come on, falling in love, that's just a cheesy way of saying your attempt at finding the person you are going to marry. Yet, I'd much rather dwell on the idea of falling in love, rather than searching for marriage.
You might be asking yourself, Sadiya, what has brought you to this point, that you want to write a whole piece on love? Has love sparked in your life? Answer: No. To anyone who knows me, I am and will forever be a hopeless romantic, with too much time to think about the magic of falling in love. But, the thing that always gets me: romanticized romance. Which, sounds weird but I promise you, it is a thing. By romanticized romance, I mean any rom-com known to man. As a young person I can genuinely say rom-coms have ruined my view on how I want to fall in love. Will I ever stop being madly obsessed with rom-coms? No. But, has it deep affected my image on what love should look like? Yes. That is why I'm writing a piece on love.
I believe with my whole heart, that falling in love should be actual magic. And again, even though that sounds cheesy, I do believe, that part will actually come true. It's the whole, how I will fall in love, that I think will differ drastically from the movies. I doubt that I'll fall off a stage and into my true love's arms. I doubt that I'll fall in love with a bad boy turned good just for me. I doubt I'll fall in love ironically with someone I've hated my whole life. Obviously, I would love something that exciting as my story, but I can't let my rom-com affected view on romance effect the way I view love.
That in no means is me saying to have low standards. It's me saying that I've always viewed everything with a heart covered filter. My view of reality warped, stuck in some dimension where my life follows the rom-com format: meet, fall in love, cute montage, huge argument, separation, re-fall in love, happily ever after. Yes, I've watched far too many rom-coms during the short time I've been on Earth. But, I think the older I get the more I realize that I don't even want that for myself.
Sometimes I watch "That 70's Show" and desperately want to have a relationship like Hyde and Jackie, but I also want my own story, full of my own flaws, and my own journey. The one thing rom-coms have always caused me to believe is that I want what "they" have. But, really I want what I will some day have. It might not be like the rom-coms I've watched, but it will be my own IRL version of a rom-com.
Hyde and Jackie will forever be my inspo for love. It's actually so crazy how much we try to imitate other people's lives. and honestly i think our generation is really prone to "copying" another person's lifestyle because we have had multiple influences and pressures since birth. I mean, for one, our parents obviously want us to behave some certain way, but also at the same time want us to be our person? It's too much and too hard to completely invent yourself and have it replicate a life of good, decency that your parents want. And honestly, my parents have been more easy going with this where they let us be our person and wear what we want, etc.,…